It sounds pretty simple, being known. There are all kinds of ways to be known. One way is outwardly. To be known by others. Friends, work colleagues, family, pastors, neighbors, acquaintances, people in your orbit.

When my family was young and I was on the go all the time, I had a lot of balls in the air. I used to joke that I’d LOVE to feel lonely, puleeese just for a day??. I’m a kidder.

I walk around with a sound track in my head. I think we all do. Sometimes it’s funny (ok, mostly it’s funny!) Sometimes it’s rested and in the moment. Sometimes it is anticipating an upcoming event or project. Sometimes it’s filled with gratitude and hope.

Today I am talking about Life Design. I’ll say it again, LIFE DESIGN. Ok doesn’t that sound phenomenal? The idea that you can design a life you desire. WHAT?

So I was at dinner last night with friends, and the subject of empty nesters came up. Life’s seasons tend to accumulate. The next steps come into focus, and for many it's empty nesting, when the last of the "chicks" flies off into the world.

It’s the WORST… am I right? One of the hardest things we do as parents (whether you have your own kids or have stepped into the role for others) is to watch our children encounter the rough spots in life.

What is all this business about being stuck?

Honestly (and I am aware this is most likely my coaching community) everything I read, and hear people going on about is being stuck.

One topic has stayed with me (does that happen to you? After a conversation, do you revisit what was shared and continue to “chew “ on it?) I do. Especially the really meaty ones. I’m deep you know!

I was writing recently for my social media post (are you getting those? Find me on Instagram below, I'm hysterical!) about the concept of “relationship hygiene.”

I had a conversation about the idea of the “compassionate lie” with my dear friend the other day. We disagree.

The more I think I know, the more I realize I don’t know. Anyone with me on that one (and it doesn’t escape me, probably not the words you want to hear from your life coach, am I right?) Stay with me.

They call it the sandwich generation. Raising your own children while caring for elderly parents.

It’s everything. Not just to me, but the “why” is the reason you do anything, and more importantly it’s what keeps you at it when you want to quit. Being clear on your “why” will get you over the hump, and onto success (however you define it) that feels aligned with who you are. Serve that up!

Is it me, or is everyone talking about anxiety? I realize as a life coach that’s kinda my wheelhouse, but it’s everywhere.

Sabotage is a really loaded word. For me it has arrows and barbs. I associate it with an organized plan to upset or undermine something or someone. Never a good thing that’s for sure.

Let me walk you through a scenario, get comfy! (names have been changed to protect the innocent.)

When I was teaching I used to marvel at students that were just bulletproof. Nothing rocked them. The thought of becoming upset over something didn’t even enter their consciousness, (sadly even not doing their homework!) When do the children start to deviate from that innate confidence?

Be honest, did you ever yell “make good decisions” out the window of the car as your child walked into a dance, or school or some social thing? Really? Just me then?