Need Permission?
Are you a ruler follower? Or do you consider yourself more of a maverick? Better to ask for forgiveness than permission? Can you be both at times? How you see yourself in this regard can determine a lot down the road, am I right?
This is how I see it.
I consider myself a ruler follower (except when I consider the rules more like guidelines, but let’s not split hairs!) I always wanted to “color within the lines”. I can remember as a little girl watching those around me, determining what was expected of me, and then going about to deliver just that. It kept me out of trouble. In my house growing up trouble was not a plank you wanted to walk. That started the people pleasing mindset that has followed me into my adulthood.
It’s a primal need to in the tribe. Acceptance and praise from our tribe, even better! That kind of validation hits the pleasure centers of the human brain. Before long autopilot takes over, and we don’t even question the rules, as long as we are praised for following them, they become engrained beliefs and habits.
But what if they were not? What if you gave yourself permission to explore what you do and why you do it? Hint: What we do things because of how we feel; how we feel is because of what we think, you see where I’m going with this don’t you?
I began looking at things I did just because that’s way I always did it. I gained a new awareness of options that I had never considered. I decided I didn’t need anyone else’s permission for many things. Now, instead of keeping my head down and hitting all the buckets, I look up. It’s expansive to do that. I like to think about possibilities, not probabilities
Give yourself permission to consider new ways of thinking about old issues, relationships, dreams. I promise you, it’ll start some good momentum. Let me help you get started.
And speaking of momentum, (see what I did there?) join me this Sunday (ok tomorrow) for the second of three workshops in The Girlfriends Retreat series. All designed to connect, focus and empower us all as we head into 2022. Time to take charge, are you with me?
Last week we explored the various relationships we nurture.
Here's what people said:
“Good combo if material, examples and of course humor. "
"The pace was good..I took a lot of notes.”
“Gave me something to think about."
Tomorrow (Jan 30) I will touch on the three pillars of renewal.
Our third and final workshop (Feb 6) will highlight a simple process to keep us on track.
Sunday afternoons, 3pm PST
Meet me on Zoom / 45-60 minutes / free workshops
Intimate group size
Format: Each week I share prepared concepts, examples and techniques for you to consider and implement. Then open it up for discussion and observation.
Feel comfortable and safe.
Attend the topic review and participate in the following conversation, or just observe, whatever feels good for you.
Grateful for you,
Anne