Humility, it’s the missing piece
Failure seems an odd topic for a weekly column geared toward inspiration, but that’s the theme here in June. I started with Unstructured Time (being too busy), then Customer Service (not prioritizing yourself) as examples of falling short, ok failure.
Today I want to explore humility in failure. Tell me honestly are you grasping the arms of the chair right now, bracing for places you don’t like to go? I get it, but I‘ve got you, and would never lead you to shaded areas and leave you there. Breathe, let’s go.
I want you to think, when was the last time you had to rebound from a whopper. I mean face-down crushing blow? How did you pick your wounded self up off the ground? What did you lean on? Humility can be a good asset here.
The definition of humility is, “a modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness.” Not self deprecating, self-loathing or poor self-esteem. Quite different. I’m so fortunate to have some pretty awesome people in my world, many are oh so wise. I notice they rely on humility on the regular. Here’s what they seem to have in common:
They acknowledge they don’t have it all together with no defensive posturing
They allow for wonder
They forgive easily, especially themselves
They don’t get caught up in the story, making things mean more than they need to
Judgements are quiet and kind
But humility takes courage. I love this quote by Mary Anne Radmacher, “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.’” Humility has that same voice.
When those tough days arrive (and they will, its part of the deal) an approach of humility can effectively take the stinger out. When you are in a humble thought space (I get tired of saying mindset, but I know you are on to me!) the tough lessons become clear and the path forward is a healing one. It could be the missing piece in your rebound.
Where are you suffering because a painful experience has taken root in your heart? If you’ve been with me for a while you know that I maintain that pain is sometimes necessary but suffering never is. Humility is a healing way forward. Don’t wait to feel better to move on. With humility you can feel better today. Trust yourself. Let yourself off the hook. It could make the difference for you. I can help.
Grateful for you,
Anne