Getting What You Want!
Sooooo, what do you want?
And……if you in fact CAN answer that question, why don’t you have it?
Time?
Clarity?
Overwhelm?
Don’t want to rock the boat?
Intention?
Don’t deserve it?
Next year?
“Most people don’t get what they want, they get what they tolerate. The difference is their standards.” -Tony Robbins
Why haven’t you lost those 20 lbs?
Why is the garage still a disaster area?
Why don’t you have that credential you talked about?
Why haven't you started writing that book?
Why are your finances still “slippery”?
I wrote a column a while back called Doing Hard Things, (find it here.) It's a practical and honest look at what we put off, without realizing the price we pay (hard things) when we do.
The summer is upon us, graduations have been going on for a few weeks, and still have a few more to go. “Busyness” and plans and celebrations are taking shape for the next “thing.”
Sounds like a lot of prep and care and details and work. To be sure the next “thing” turns out the way the someone (son, daughter, cousin, nice, nephew, husband, wife, parent, you get the picture) wants it to turn out. Nothing wrong with putting together a lovely celebration, or trip or move…..unless you cannot point to the same effort you put in for you.
Many arrive at a certain point in life (ahem!) and have been doing this for so many decades, that’s all they know. It’s their identity. Seems selfless, and dedicated (a bit holy?). But when did dedication to others permanently get to the top of the list? So much so that YOU are bereft of YOUR dreams, goals and wants, and basically who you are? And by the way, not very interesting. Ouch, but read it again!
It’s a real thing, and look, I can point out the many areas where we are socialized to do this, especially being a mom, and having all those messages about what that looks like. Rubbish!
If being the perfect (do NOT get me started on perfect) mom meant being a doormat, putting everyone else first, and having your self-esteem wrapped in the achievements validation and affection of others, then, you are in for a bit of a let down.
The “others” get what they need, and move on (perhaps you'll get a thank you note? ) and you are left with an empty bucket, the one you don’t like to talk about; enter “busyness.”
Here’s the bottom line, everyday I help people to focus in on what they want. I do that for free. But they hire me to help them apply it to their lives. Hint: it has a lot to do with purpose..Do I have your attention?
You can answer the question I posed at the top of this column, but creating it in your life, now that’s the magic…..oh and FYI, it’s rarely a DIY kind of magic!
You done with tolerating? Me too! I want so much more for you because I KNOW it’s available for you, you just need a little know-how. Her name is Anne!
Book a PURPOSE call here, and give yourself the answer to that little voice that says, “this could be good for me.” That voice is right, and it knows you. Listen to it.